I have been a Professional Business Woman for 30+ years. Yes, that’s right, I am getting old. I always thought that when you became a business person, you left childish behavior behind you. I am here to tell you all that Childish behavior is alive and well especially in the business world. People are just as mean and spiteful in the Business world as Bullies on a Playground.
Many of you that know me know that I am a very busy person. I am continually on the go and if I am not, someone gets me to volunteer to do something.
I am the Customer Service and Key Account Director for Airgroup A Radiant Logistics Company, when I am not out visiting our customers or trying to find new customers to take care of, I pitch in at the office to help with the day to day tasks. I am on the Leadership Team for The Chicago Entrepreneurial Meet Up group and I am on the Board of Directors for 2 not for profit organizations. (The Elite SDVOB and the Rally Point Program) I am on the Board of Directors for 2 not for profit organizations.
I am the Executive Director of Socially Promoted, a promotion and referral marketing group that I founded almost a year ago. Phew…. That’s a lot for 1 person Yes I know, I know……
Having said all of that, in the founding of Socially Promoted I asked people I thought I knew pretty well and would grasp the idea and run with it. Well that wasn’t quite what happened, but over all I am very pleased with what has been happening with the group and the direction the group is going in.
Because the group in many respects has “failed” I have had to put rules in place. Personally I think that we shouldn’t “NEED” them but alas we do. Each rule I put in place is because the group failed in some respect. I know that many view me as a Bully and as someone who is treating them like children. I regret that they do but there is nothing I can do about it except allow them to fail, and that goes against everything I believe in.
I founded the group, I asked several people to by my Board of Directors to help me take this group and its principals as far as it could possibly go. To be honest with you, it is No one’s business what I and the Board are doing. Each member has enjoyed an educational opportunity that very few receive, the fact that it literally came to them at no cost to themselves is a miracle. The fact that the Board and I have spent countless hours of our own time, and printed things out at our own expense goes unnoticed.
Apparently we had a member that was unhappy for many reasons, instead of coming to me directly; they decided to confront one of the other directors at a different function. This particular member of the Board tried to explain what we were doing and this member would have none of it. She finally directed the member to me. She then got in contact with me and told me what was said. I was furious…. Yes that’s right, Furious. I don’t care if you questions, but this member threatened to “Bad Mouth” each Director and the group in general. That is absolutely unacceptable and nothing more than a Bully standing and threatening to beat us up if we don’t give him our lunch money.
I did reach out to this member and had a face to face meeting. As expected, it did not go well.
- This member was furious because they felt we were going to be making money off of them and that we had no right to do what we were going to do. What he couldn’t respond to is how much he felt that we were going to be making. Did they realize how much the other directors and I put out of our own pockets to run this “FREE” Group?
- That we needed to be transparent and let them know what was going on. I told them that we had been transparent. That we asked the group what direction they wanted to go in and that the board and I were working on a Plan for that. In fact an email had gone out to all the members recapping what was discussed and what we were doing.
- I asked them why they would threaten to bad mouth the group if they left. They then claimed my director was lying, that they never said they would bad mouth the group or the directors. In fact if they left they planned to keep supporting the group as they had been. I did have to point out that they weren’t supporting them now, why would they support them after they left?
There were so many other things that he was unhappy about. Bottom line is Why Threaten a group that has been good to you and has brought you business and exposure? Why not just leave? Why be mean about the whole thing? Why claim you will continue to support the members in the group when you currently aren’t supporting the group in the first place? I don’t want anyone in the group that doesn’t want to be there. I certainly won’t allow anyone to Bully me, or one of my Directors into doing what they want done.
So don’t ever let anyone Bully you into backing away from your goal. There will be Bullies that are jealous of what you have accomplished and where you could end up. There are Bullies that will try and take away what you have earned, or take advantage of your good nature and when you don’t allow them to take advantage anymore they are mean spirited. Stand up for what you believe in, you would be surprised how many people you know that will back you up.
I guess I should just start a series of blogs on what it took to start the group, keep it running and get everyone on the same page. Just not sure if it should be in the Horror or Comedy Section.