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Who You Gonna Call?

It's been said that you are the average of the top 5 people you hang out with.  What this means is that the 5 people you hang out with the most, the traits, the skills, the financial picture, and the thought process of those 5 people help form your thoughts, traits, skills, and finances.

Think about that.

Think about the top 5 people you hang out with - spend the most time with.

When you've got great news, who you gonna call?

When you've got horrible news, who you gonna call?

When you've got surprising news, who you gonna call?

Who You Gonna CallWho are these 5 people that are affecting your life?

Now ask yourself this question...

"Are these 5 people helping me get to where I want to go or hurting me?"

Ask yourself, "Are these people pulling me towards my dreams or holding me back from attaining success?"

Upon reflection, most people will find that the people they surround themselves with are not moving them forward at all.

Most entrepreneurs will find that many of their top 5 are actually naysayers, negative Nellies, or nagging nannies.

In some cases, those people are actually your significant other and/or family members.

When I first heard that you need to surround yourself by people who will pull you forward and help you succeed, I thought to myself, well, I like my friends.  I don't want to lose them.  They're good people.

I didn't have any negative nellies.  The challenge though was that they weren't supportive of what I did either.  They were just my friends.  So I had to ask myself, what's really important to me?

What's really important to you?

What do you want to accomplish and achieve?

What eventually happened to me was that I started attending different meetings, trainings, and events, and found some individuals who knew more than I did on entrepreneurship and business building.  In addition, I hired a mentor to help move me forward.  I started spending more time with these people and less time with my previous 5.  And it wasn't really a conscious decision.  I just found that as my interest changed (to succeed more), I naturally started surrounding myself with like-minded individuals.

I found out that I didn't lose my old friends - they're still my friends, I just ended up making more friends and spending more time with them.  My new 5 challenged me, supported me, pulled me up, and moved me forward getting me closer and closer to my goals.  My old 5 are still around and I still get together with them a few times a year.  I don't hang out with them every week any more though... and I don't feel a sense of loss at all.

In fact, I am more fulfilled now than ever before.  I have new friends; I'm doing what I love, and I'm busier than ever.  As one of my new friends says, "Living the dream!"

When are you going to start living the dream?  When are you going to start moving forward with your life?  And... who you gonna call?